Understanding belief systems

What do you believe about yourself? What do you believe about your family or your friends? What are your religious beliefs?

A belief system helps us process our daily reality. We each possess beliefs about religion, politics, spirituality, ourselves, and others.

Several factors contribute to the formation of our beliefs, including: our childhoods, pressure from outsiders, and our knowledge of the topic.

Once we form our beliefs, they heavily influence us in the way we conduct ourselves, the choices we make, and how we make sense of our world. Even though beliefs hold such immense power, we are still able to foster new beliefs, with work.

One of the most important beliefs we hold are those about ourselves. ?Self-beliefs can either be positive or negative. ?Positive beliefs about ourselves will help us gain and maintain confidence, motivation, resilience, and a positive attitude. This positive state of emotion makes it easier for us to ask that person out on a date, or increases career or athletic performance. Negative beliefs about the self may cause you to stick around a bad situation or person, or it may contribute to emotional/psychological issues including eating disorders, constant feelings of hopelessness, sadness, anger, and addiction. With this state of mind, we tend to lose motivation, and our entire lives can change for the worst.

  • What is the belief you hold about yourself?
  • Do you think you are worthy of love?
  • Do you think you deserve a happy life?
  • Do you think you are good looking?
  • Do you think you are smart? Funny? Caring?

Many people conclude that they hold very positive beliefs about themselves, yet they aren?t sure why they can?t accept love, or go for their dreams. Something is holding them back. ?More often than not, it turns out they have doubts about themselves or what they deserve. ?Even though they consciously think they have positive self-beliefs, they may be in fact lacking a pattern of positive self-beliefs.

When it comes to motivation, what if you really believe that the work you do has a positive impact on yourself, others, or something you value? You?re more likely to work hard, knowing that your effort makes a difference. Contrarily, if you believe that your work is not meaningful, or fails to serve a purpose? your motivation levels will naturally decrease, as long as you hold that belief.

Resilience is very important in overcoming setbacks, or facing adversity. Resilience is developed throughout life and the beliefs you have formed from experiences and over time. We aren?t born with resilience. ?Examples of resilience include: mastering one?s emotions, pushing the limits and not giving up, turning a negative situation into a positive one, and more. People with high resilience believe that there isn?t a limit on success, or love, or positive thinking. They keep striving for more and more, never giving up. When they feel a certain emotion, they are self-aware and pause before acting, or they may use the emotion to propel them forward and not backwards. They might even use the emotion to have a more powerful workout. ?Or, when a loved one passes away… one of the biggest heartbreaks possible, highly resilient people acknowledge the hurt but know that they are able to cope and eventually get through it.

Soul Stryde?s one-on-one Life Coaching sessions can help clients uncover and recognize current beliefs and provide tools to foster a consistent pattern of positive beliefs. ?Soul Stryde?s Teen and Kids Life Coaching help teens and kids with self-esteem, academics, success, and resilience.

If you would like to discover and improve your belief system to transform your life, drop an email to: alicia@lifecoachingvancouver.ca for a one-on-one consultation.


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